Single-Blessedness from a Good Friend's Point Of View

While browsing the new posts here on Multiply, I stumbled upon this blog post by one of my best pals from college. It's about his opinion regarding being single and the way other people look at it. After reading, I realized that he has a point actually, and I'm sure some of you can relate to it as well. You can read the entirety of his blog post here (http://sinjepoy.multiply.com/journal/item/1/Girlfriend) but with his "permission" (di pa sumasagot e... haha!), I'm gonna place a portion of his blog here. Consider this as a repost of sorts. Hindi naman siguro counted ito as plagiarism since I am not taking any credit for it, it's all my dear friend's work.

Pareng Jepoy, this one is too good to be passed up kaya I hope you understand if I "repost" parts of it here. Ngayon pa lang ay pinasasalamatan na kita, hehe! Nice one bro, you hit the nail in the head with this one. Congrats. At sa naisulat mong ito, ang masasabi ko lang ay "amen..."    =)

Life is not just about having that special someone in one’s life. Sure it adds color, it adds life, but it’s not about just that. I mean, my opinion is that we are not put in this world just for that sole reason. We do not live our lives just to be able to find or have that special someone. Yes life in a lot of ways is all about love and finding love, but love can be found and be given in a lot of ways and not just in that specific manner.

 

There are a lot of people who are in a relationship, but are they really happy?! Before they got into it, that was all they kept going after, that was all they wanted to have. But once they have it, not all of them end up happy. A lot of reasons are being brought up; some blame it on “wrong place, wrong time”, some blame it on finding the “wrong person” (is there even a right or wrong here?), some blame it on rushing into things, there are a lot more reasons, but I’d rather not state them all.

 

The way I see it, one of the actual reasons here is that people tend to forget themselves when they are in a relationship already. Not that I am saying that we should be selfish or what. Yes, I am a firm believer of loving with all your heart and giving it your all, but at the same time, I am also a firm believer of loving yourself also at the same time that you are loving your partner. You have to remember to love and respect yourself too while doing the same to your partner. You still have your own life! Your life is not built around him/her and you weren’t born just to live your life for him/her, you have your own life, you have your own everything, how the heck do you expect to actually be a good lover and be successful in that aspect if you can’t even learn to love and respect your own life! If you only rely on him/her or keep on relying on him/her to be happy, how the heck do you expect to really be happy in your life!

 

The idea of having that certain person being the missing piece in your life is just so wrong! Well, at least for me, and the last time I checked, everyone’s still entitled to his/her own opinion. Call it sour-graping, call me a loser, but I am giving out my own personal opinion only. The way I see it, he/she is not the missing piece in one’s life, but he/she becomes an additional piece in a never-ending puzzle that we keep forming in our lives as long as we are living. We don’t actually live our lives for that “special someone”. We write our own books, our own chapters, our own story, our own series. He/she will just be the start of a new chapter in our books, a new season in our series.